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Friendship

More than affection — a sharing of life and the good, which Aristotle ranked among the things most necessary for a flourishing life.

Philia is the broad Greek notion of friendship and affectionate bond, spanning relationships from family and comrades to civic ties. Aristotle devoted two whole books of the Nicomachean Ethics (4th century BCE) to it, distinguishing friendships of utility, friendships of pleasure, and the highest kind — friendship grounded in shared virtue, where each loves the other for their own sake. Such friendship, he held, is essential to a good life, a kind of mirror in which we come to know ourselves.

How it traveled

  1. Symposium
    Athens · -385
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  2. Lysis
    Athens · -380
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  3. Memorabilia
    Athens · -354
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  4. Cyropaedia
    Athens · -354
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  5. Symposium
    Athens · -354
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  6. Hiero
    Athens · -354
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  7. Hellenica
    Athens · -354
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  8. Letters
    Athens · -348
    explains
  9. Rhetoric
    Chalcis · -335
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  10. Nicomachean Ethics
    Chalcis · -322
    explains
  11. Eudemian Ethics
    Chalcis · -322
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  12. Magna Moralia
    Chalcis · -322
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  13. Histories
    Megalopolis · -118
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  14. Pro P. Sulla
    Formiae · -62
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  15. De Amicitia
    Formiae · -43
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  16. de Finibus Bonorum et Malorum
    Formiae · -43
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  17. Ex Ponto
    Tomis (Constanța) · 17
    explains
  18. Quomodo adulator ab amico internoscatur
    Chaeronea · 120
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  19. De fraterno amore
    Chaeronea · 120
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  20. Quaestiones Convivales
    Chaeronea · 120
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  21. Amatorius
    Chaeronea · 120
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  22. Civil Wars
    Alexandria · 165
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  23. Toxaris vel amicitia
    Samosata · 180
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  24. Deipnosophistae
    Naucratis · 230
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  25. Vitae philosophorum
    · 240
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  26. Mivchar HaPeninim
    Granada · 950
  27. Zohar
    Guadalajara · 1280
  28. Sefer HaIkkarim
    Soria · 1425
  29. Reshit Chokhmah
    Tzfat · 1575
  30. Likutei Halakhot
    Breslov (Ukraine) · 1840
  31. Malbim on Proverbs
    Bucharest · 1860
  32. Jewish Antiquities
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  33. Historical Library
    Syracuse (Sicily)
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  34. Historia Romana
    Rome
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  35. Epistulae
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  36. Facta et Dicta Memorabilia
    Rome
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  37. Epistulae
    Antioch
    explains
  38. Orationes
    Prusa
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  39. De Vita Pythagorica
    Apamea
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  40. De Bellis
    Constantinople (Istanbul)
    explains

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Discourses · Epictetus

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On friendship. WHAT a man applies himself to earnestly, that he naturally loves. Do men then apply themselves earnestly to the things which are bad? By no means. Well, do they apply themselves to thin

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Guide for the Perplexed · Moses ben Maimon (Rambam) · 1190 CE

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קדֵשה: מיסוד הקשר הזוגי וחשיבות האחווה2 ואומר: ידוע שחברים הם דבר שהאדם זקוק לו כל ימי חייו. אריסטו ביאר זאת בספר התשיעי של "אתיקה" (לפי הסדר בתרגום הערבי. לפנינו: ח,1). בשעת בריאותו ואושרו הוא נהנה מ

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Handbook of Platonism · Alcinous

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In Ethica Nicomachea Paraphrasis (Pseudepigraphum Olim A Constantino Palaeocappa confectum et olim sub auctore Heliodoro Prusensi vel Andronico Rhodio vel Olympiodoro) · Anonymi In Aristotelis Ethica Nicomachea

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In Ethica Nicomachea Paraphrasis (Pseudepigraphum Olim A Constantino Palaeocappa confectum et olim sub auctore Heliodoro Prusensi vel Andronico Rhodio vel Olympiodoro) · Anonymi In Aristotelis Ethica Nicomachea

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In Aristotelis artem rhetoricam commentarium · Anonymi in Aristotelis Artem Rhetoricam

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Divisiones Aristoteleae · Pseudo-Aristotle

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Divisiones Aristoteleae · Pseudo-Aristotle

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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Friendship—its nature and qualities, what constitutes a friend, and whether the term friendship has one or several meanings,and if several, how many, and also what is our duty towards a friend and wha

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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In addition to this, we consider a friend to be one of the greatest goods, and friendlessness and solitude a very terrible thing, because the whole of life and voluntary association is with friends; f

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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And since there are three sorts of friendship, based on goodness, on utility and on pleasure, and two varieties of each sort (for each of them is either on a basis of superiority or of equality), and

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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It is a mark of the useful friend that one wishes the things good for him, and so of the benefactor, and in fact a friend of any sort (for this definition of friendship is not distinctive); of another

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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All these defining marks are predicated in the case of some friendship, but none of them with reference to friendship as a single thing. Hence there are many of them, and each is thought to belong to

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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To perceive and to know a friend, therefore, is necessarily in a manner to perceive and in a manner to know oneself. Consequently to share even vulgar pleasures and ordinary life with a friend is natu

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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But in reality there are many kinds of friendships: this was among the things said already, as we have distinguished three senses of the term friendship—one sort has been defined as based on goodness,

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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On the other hand friendship based on pleasure is the friendship of the young, for they have a sense of what is pleasant; hence young people’s friendship easily changes, for since their characters cha

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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Therefore since the primary sort of friendship is in accordance with goodness, friends of this sort will be absolutely good in themselves also, and this not because of being useful, but in another man

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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And since to love actively is to treat the loved object qua loved, and the friend is an object of love to the friend qua dear to him but not qua musician or medical man, the pleasure of friendship is

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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The primary form of friendship therefore, and the one that causes the name to be given to the others, is friendship based on goodness and due to the pleasure of goodness, as has been said before. The

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Eudemian Ethics · Aristotle

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It is also possible for a bad man to be friends with a good man, for the bad man may be useful to the good man for his purpose at the time-and the good man to the uncontrolled man for his purpose at t

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